Uncovering Your Passion: Steps to Find What Truly Lights You Up
Have you ever found yourself with a rare free day—no meetings, no errands, no must-dos—and then… total blank? You sit there scrolling or pacing, wondering, What do I even want to do with this time? That feeling, of having space but zero clue what actually excites you, is more common than you think. Maybe you thought your passions would be obvious by now—but instead, you just feel stuck.
Here’s the thing: finding your passion isn’t about some lightning-bolt “aha” moment. It’s more like slowly remembering yourself—exploring the parts of you that got buried under the daily grind, expectations, and “shoulds.” This blog is here to help you start that process—at your own pace, with real steps to reconnect with what truly lights you up.
Why Finding Your Passion Feels So Hard
Let’s be real: life is busy. Between work, family, responsibilities, and keeping up with everyone else’s expectations, there’s barely time to think about what you want. It’s no surprise that your passions might feel distant—or even nonexistent.
And then there’s fear. Fear of failing. Fear of looking silly. Fear that maybe you don’t have anything “special” to be passionate about. So we push those little nudges down and stay in our safe zone—even if it feels kind of empty.
But here’s what’s true: passion isn’t about being perfect. It’s not about making a career out of it or impressing anyone else. It’s about what makes you feel alive.
Step 1: Think About What Brings You Joy
Go back to the basics. What has ever made you feel happy, playful, or in flow?
Grab a notebook and try listing:
- Things you loved doing as a kid or teen
- Activities that make you lose track of time
- Hobbies you’ve always been curious about but never tried
That thing you loved in middle school? That spark might still be there—just waiting for a little oxygen.
Step 2: Notice What Gives You Energy
Not everything you like is going to light you up. But energy? That’s a clue.
Ask yourself:
- What topics or conversations make you come alive?
- What do you find yourself Googling “just for fun”?
- What leaves you feeling energized, not drained?
Pay attention to what expands you. It doesn’t have to be deep—it just has to feel real.
Step 3: Give Yourself Permission to Explore
You don’t have to figure it all out in one sitting. Just start small.
Try this:
- Take a class or workshop (online totally counts)
- Join a group or community focused on something new
- Block off a “play day” to explore a hobby or creative outlet
No pressure, no commitment—just curiosity.
Step 4: Connect It to What Matters Most
The stuff that sticks? Usually, it aligns with your values.
Here’s how to dig into that:
- Jot down 3–5 of your core values (e.g., growth, connection, creativity, freedom)
- Ask: How can I bring more of these into my everyday life?
- What kind of passions naturally match those values?
For example: if “freedom” matters to you, maybe your passion has to do with flexibility, travel, or self-expression.
How to Start Living Your Passion
Once you get those little glimmers of what lights you up—don’t shove them aside.
Start Small
15–30 minutes a day or a couple times a week is enough. The key is consistency, not perfection.
Let Go of “Being the Best”
You don’t have to monetize it or master it. Just let it be yours.
Find Support
Surround yourself with people who get it—or are also figuring it out. Community matters.
Why Passion Actually Matters
Passion gives your life direction. It gives you something to look forward to. It reminds you that you’re a human being—not just a human doing.
When you reconnect with your passion, you:
- Feel more energized
- Build confidence
- Start trusting yourself again
- Inspire others just by being more you
You deserve to feel that kind of aliveness. (read more here)
Ready to Reconnect With What Lights You Up?
If you’re tired of going through the motions and want to start building a life that actually feels good—I’m here to help.
Inside my 1:1 coaching, we’ll explore your values, passions, and purpose so you can start living with more clarity and confidence. This is your time to rediscover what excites you and make space for more of it—without pressure or perfection.
