June 17, 2025
I had a moment the other day talking with a friend who’s in the thick of building their business — signing up for courses, chasing strategies, trying to figure out how to grow, scale, and “make it.” And I totally get it. I’ve been there. I used to live in that world.
But as I sat there listening, It hit me hard: I’m so grateful to be out of that world.
Out of the constant hustle.
Out of the pushy sales tactics.
Out of the cycle of unproven, overpromised programs that never seem to deliver.
When I was deep in the coaching industry, it felt like success was always just one investment away. One more certification, one more “proven method,” one more funnel. But none of it really worked — not in the way it promised. It felt like a loop: buying, hoping, burning out, and then buying again. Rinse and repeat.
For a while, I tried to keep up — to do what I thought I had to do to succeed. But over time, it started feeling… off. I kept trying to learn more, invest more, push harder, but nothing ever really felt aligned. The deeper I got into actually getting qualified — through neuroscience coaching, trauma-informed training, and life-purpose work — the more I started to notice how unqualified most of the industry really is. It became painfully clear: so much of what gets taught is just regurgitated content from people who never took the time to truly understand it.
It wasn’t coaching. It was influence.
And I didn’t sign up to be an influencer.
And I was craving something deeper.
Something more grounded. Something more real.
I didn’t have a dramatic exit. – No breakdown or rock-bottom moment.
It was more like a slow unraveling.
The motivation faded. The excitement dulled. I felt increasingly disconnected from the business I had once poured everything into.
Eventually, I gave myself permission to pause.
To stop chasing.
To listen.
And when I did, something within me shifted.
When I began exploring therapy as my next step, everything in my body said yes.
It felt legitimate. Grounded. Regulated.
No pushy tactics. No salesy DMs. Just structure, ethics, and actual training designed to help people navigate deep emotional work.
I enrolled in a graduate program to become a therapist with a focus on trauma and crisis counseling.
I dove back into the science of healing – the part that actually lights me up: understanding people, the brain, healing, and long-term transformation.
And for the first time in a long time, I felt aligned.
No more pretending. No more pitching. No more performative personal growth. Just real transformation — for myself and the people I want to serve.
And it felt good.
Therapy feels steady. Rooted. Regulated.
It’s not about performing. It’s not about constantly being “on.”
It’s about presence. It’s about real change.
It’s quieter — and I think that’s what I needed.
I know I’m not the only one who’s felt the pressure to hustle and perform. And I know I’m not the only one who’s questioned what’s actually working — or what’s actually needed.
So if you’re feeling tired… uninspired… disconnected from the path you’re on…
I just want you to know you’re not alone.
You’re allowed to evolve.
You’re allowed to change your mind.
You’re allowed to choose something that feels better for your nervous system — even if it doesn’t make sense to everyone else.
This shift in my life isn’t about abandoning the past. I’m proud of the work I’ve done and the people I’ve supported. But I’m also proud of myself for listening when things stopped feeling aligned.
These days, I’m leaning more into the science of healing. Into deep conversations. Into learning more about creating therapy sessions that aren’t about surface-level fixes, but about safety, self-understanding, and real transformation.
I don’t have it all figured out. But I do know this:
Stepping away from the hustle let me come home to myself.
If you’re resonating with this journey — if you’re in the middle of the hustle, or quietly questioning your own — I want to offer a gentle invitation:
Take a step back.
We’re all being influenced all the time. That’s not inherently bad — but it is something to be intentional about. Ask yourself:
Pay attention to those moments.
Listen to your gut.
Notice what your body is trying to tell you.
Sometimes, you need to step out of the stream to actually see the water you’ve been swimming in.
I’m not saying the coaching world is all bad. I’m just saying… it’s okay to question it. It’s okay to outgrow it. It’s okay to choose a path that feels softer, steadier, and more sustainable.
That’s what I chose. And for the first time in a long time, I feel like myself again.
So whether you’re here because you’re walking a similar path, quietly wondering what’s next, or just watching my story unfold — thank you for being here.
I’m so glad we’re figuring it out together.
I’m so proud of you!
“Your allowed to choose something that feels better for your nervous system, even if it doesn’t make sense to anyone else” really resonates with me and I have been through this very experience the past year.
Thank you for sharing!
So glad it hit home with you! Thanks for reading
I am excited to watch your journey. You are great!
Michael
Thank you! Your support means everything to me!
Monica, I am so excited for you. As someone who has worked with you as my coach for a year, I can honestly say this is your passion. It’s about helping others heal those parts of themselves so they CAN make those pivots in their work life. Even if they pivot multiple times before they make it work.
It’s really all about growth. And you my friend have always been good at listening to what works best for you.
I can’t wait to see you blossom in this next chapter of your life.
BRB crying over this comment. 🫶