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For a long time, I wrestled with a question that felt impossible to answer: Who am I without the rules? Without the roles I was taught to play? Without the expectations that shaped every part of my identity? Growing up, I never had the space to ask this question or explore the answer. My identity […]

For most of my life, I believed my worth came from how well I could disappear. I was raised in a culture where being a “good woman” meant being supportive, not central—present, but never loud. Seen, but not heard. There was no space for softness unless it served someone else. No space for questions unless […]

There was a time in my life when prayer was a ritual—something I did with great reverence, precision, and structure. I prayed over every meal, morning and night, always on my knees, often following the structure of the Lord’s Prayer. I was taught that prayer was about surrender, about never asking for too much, and […]

I used to believe that certainty was the point.That faith meant clarity. Obedience. Doing what I was told.That questioning meant falling away. That curiosity was the gateway to deception. I used to believe in black-and-white. But like so many others who’ve walked the path of deconstruction, I’ve come to learn that real growth—the kind that […]

I’m sitting at the airport as I write this. Solo. Headed out on another adventure I used to be too scared to even imagine. There was a time I never would have done this. The thought of navigating travel alone made me spiral — What if I got lost? What if I couldn’t figure out […]

For most of my life, I didn’t know what peace felt like. Not really. Sure, I knew how to appear calm. I knew how to perform “put-together.” But inside, I was always striving. Always chasing. Always moving. My nervous system didn’t know how to rest — it only knew how to hustle. Because somewhere along […]

The Lie I Inherited I was taught not to choose myself. Not in the dramatic, villainous way—no one sat me down and said, “You don’t matter.” But in the subtle, everyday ways that sink in deep: when I was praised for being serviceful, “motherly”, for putting others first, for being “low maintenance.” When I was […]

—Here’s What Happened When I Chose One Anyway I Cried When I Got Into My Master’s Program The tears came easily and flowed freely as generations of women cheered inside me. I was going back to school—to become a career woman. When I Believed Anything Was Possible As a little girl, I believed I could […]

There was a time in my life when I felt completely stuck. I was working 10 to 12-hour shifts in a senior care facility during the pandemic — emotionally drained, physically exhausted, and spiritually numb. My Peace Corps dream had just been ripped away weeks before I was supposed to leave, and I remember thinking, […]

It’s hard to forget the day everything finally clicked. I was working in senior care during the pandemic—long, exhausting 10–12 hour shifts—and I was miserable. The job felt soul-crushing, and the weight I’d gained during COVID only made me feel worse. I felt completely stuck. One day, while helping an elderly man who’d been abandoned […]